Building confidence and self esteem in an adult/child with cp part 2

As we talked about in part 1 building confidence self-esteem in a child with cp is vital to helping them as an adult. Today we are going to talk about those adults having relationships and the difficulties.

Just because, we have cerebral palsy does not mean, we are not like any other person. As a matter of fact, we with cp are highly intelligent people with physical obstacles to deal with daily. Ask yourself, who does not have obstacles to deal with on a daily basis disabled or not? We have the right to be treated with respect, to be loved and to fall in love like anyone else. When we receive the encouragement and empowerment to help with our self-esteem, depression, self-confidence, anxiety, as adults we can continue working on the skills we were given and use the tools we have to learned to help us be successful in having relationships with others either socially or intimately. https://www.cerebralpalsyguide.com/community/living-with-cerebral-palsy/

Lets face it with cp individuals who struggle with physical, mental, emotional obstacles it can be difficult to form relationships, but it is not impossible. Problems such as anxiety, anti-social skills, even speech issues can make having any kind of relationship hard. However when we make ourselves vulnerable and take the steps to put ourselves out there people begin to see us for who we are. Then others see us in a different light. A person may adore your smile, your laugh even get enjoyment out of your unique sense of humor. You will never know unless you try.

On the flip side rejection can be very difficult, hard, crushing, again remember everyone has someone for them out there. Being patient is hard but it can pay off. Studies show it’s easier for cp individuals to form relationships socially and that intimate relationships can be more difficult non-abled bodied or not, there is hope. https://www.cerebralpalsyguide.com/community/living-with-cerebral-palsy/

The truth is the right person will accept you and understand you, love you and be patient with you. I personally know it took me a long time to find my better half as I like to say, but I never gave up you should not either. When cp adults learn social skills at a young age it helps them as adults to build those relationships.

What can you as an abled-bodied individual do to help break the ice or awkwardness so to speak? The following are some tips that may help you and the disabled person you are interested in getting to know.

Be accepting of the person you are speaking with and getting to know. Share your interest and hobbies, see if you have anything in common with each other. Ask them questions tell them your story so they feel comfortable sharing theirs. Treat and talk to the person as if you can not see their disabilities. Once the ice is broke it makes communication easier. Treat your non-abled bodied date as you would want to be treated. Be patient.

Take into consideration factors about ones physical well-being Example: you would not want to take your date, whom happens to use a wheelchair, into a location with only stairs. Being mindful, planning carefully always helps. https://thedailydisability.com/2017/07/01/10-things-to-know-before-dating-someone-with-a-disability/

happy reading everyone 🙂

Author: My cerebral palsy life

I became a writer in 2010, then I pursued an education in health care administration. Working to get a medical coding certificate to add to my professional titles. I and my husband have 2 adult children, 2 dogs. I was a single mother of two for 18 years. I have personal experience in health care as a cna, mental health and raising children with developmental disabilities. I am an advocate for the disabled as I was born with cerebral palsy and have learned to overcome challenges in life. My motto is life lessons are to be teachable, to educate, share our skills and learn to understand others that we encounter on life's journey.

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